Me In The Middle of Being a Single Mom


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© Mary Lou Q


I feel like I’m standing on top of a tall mountain as I anticipate the coming of this new year ~ 2016.

“Everything comes to us that belongs to us, if we create the capacity to receive it.”

~ Rabindranath Tagore ~

This path of mine has brought me to and through so much, and here I am entering into another year to apply all that I’ve learned ~ through all that has given my life meaning, richness and purpose.  I want to create within myself the capacity to receive all that belongs to me with open arms and heart, and to be ready to take that leap when the timing is right.


Over the Christmas holiday, one of my sons shared with me a memory of when he was a teenager.  He told me that when he saw the movie ~ E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial, ‘the Mom from E.T.’ reminded him of me.

I remembered the movie and how the message captivated all of us during the early Eighties.

“Turn on your heartlight.  Let it shine wherever you go.”

Click here to listen ♥ :  Heartlight ~ Neil Diamond ~ E.T.


“The Mom from E.T.” was a single mom raising her children during that time just as I was.  So I googled to refresh my memory and learn more about her.  It was a time for me when building a sense of safety and security for my family was very important to me and E.T. touched my heart.

What I found in my google search was a video of an interview with Dee Wallace (The Mom from E.T.) reflecting back thirty years and how the movie continued to touch the hearts of people down through the years.  What I loved is how she sees the movie as a call to Love instead of Fear and Hate.  Speaking of how 9/11 has affected all of us, she expressed her own desire to see us recapture that belief that there’s more goodness in the world than there is evil:

“If we continue to live in the fear and the protecting that it made us build up, we stop creating who we are… we shut all our light down… and then love isn’t prevalent …. and then we literally begin creating the world we don’t want.  If you want a world of love, you’ve got to be love.”

I see this as true at both a national level and at a personal level.  It was the conclusion I came to as a single mom facing the challenges ahead of me and recovering from abandonment that made things look very hopeless.  If I continued to live in the fear and the protecting that it made me build up, I would have stopped creating who I was… shutting down my light… and love wouldn’t have prevailed.  Instead of creating a sense of love and support within my family, it would have begun to create a world I didn’t want.  I wanted my children to come through with a sense of acceptance and belonging which they deserved, and not a sense of being outcasts because they weren’t in a ‘whole’ family.

So. as I stand upon this mountaintop overlooking the possibilities of the new year ahead of me, I recall the message of E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial.   I hope to be able to have the courage to speak and act in a way that truly represents what I’ve come to believe.    

“Turn on your heartlight ~ Open your heart ~ Keep the light on ~ You are the light.” 


~ This is the great interview I mentioned above and I hope you’ll get as much out of it as I did.  I’d love to hear your thoughts on it. ~

Click here to view the video ♥ :  Dee Wallace (the Mom from E.T.) Exclusive Interview for the 30th Anniversary Blu-ray


10 thoughts on “Me In The Middle of Being a Single Mom

  1. I LOVED the E.T. movie! It was one my very first movies I was allowed to go watch with my high school girlfriends. All of us cried in the end, except one, I still don’t get it, she was laughing. Yet we remained friends.
    Can you believe Drew Barrymore grew up to become a “real woman actress”?
    Visiting from Coach Daddy’s 6 words challenge.


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  3. You have a great outlook. I love your quotes and E.T. references. I watched Downtown Abbey last night, and in the countdown show the writers said the overarching theme of the last season is LOVE 🙂

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    • Thank you so much, Robin! I’m glad you liked the post. You just reminded me that I want to watch last night’s DA on-demand. Love is the answer! 🙂

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    • I can see looking back where love has brought me through, Nancy. Even more so today, I can see the need to choose love over fear. Thanks for reading my post and for your beautiful thoughts. 🙂


  4. I am SO glad that you are standing on top of a mountain, rather than down in a hole (which is where one often starts after a separation)! What a fantastic place to be. You are doing a fantastic job raising your children with that sense of safety and security. I applaud you.
    Wishing you all the best for 2016 🙂

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    • I truly hope that 2016 continues to bring you new beginnings, Elizabeth. As we both know, climbing that mountain is a slow, steady, step-by-step climb and even then there are no guarantees. We can only keep trying and hoping. 🙂

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