Me in the Middle of Looking Back (#FlashBack)

        
IT’S FLASHBACK FRIDAY – A TIME OF THE MONTH WHERE YOU CAN REPUBLISH AN OLD POST OF YOURS THAT MAYBE DIDN’T GET ENOUGH ATTENTION, OR THAT YOU’RE REALLY PROUD OF, OR YOU THINK IS STILL RELEVANT ETC. THIS BLOG-GO-ROUND IS HOSTED BY MICHAEL G D’AGOSTINO FROM A LIFE EXAMINED–THAT’S WHERE YOU’LL FIND THE REST OF THE PARTICIPANTS OR TO JOIN UP YOURSELF.

THE POST I’VE CHOSEN FOR THIS MONTH FIRST APPEARED ON ME IN THE MIDDLE ON SATURDAY, JANUARY 2, 2016.  TO SEE THE ORIGINAL COMMENTS TO THAT POST YOU CAN CLICK ON THE TITLE BELOW TO BE TAKEN TO THE ORIGINAL POST. 

I CHOSE THIS POST BECAUSE I BELIEVE IT’S A MESSAGE THAT’S NEEDED IN TODAY’S WORLD WHERE SO MUCH SEEMS TO BE TAKING US IN THE WRONG DIRECTION:

“If we continue to live in the fear and the protecting that it made us build up, we stop creating who we are… we shut all our light down… and then love isn’t prevalent …. and then we literally begin creating the world we don’t want.  If you want a world of love, you’ve got to be love.”

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Me in the Middle of Being a Single Mom

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© Mary Lou Q

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I feel like I’m standing on top of a tall mountain as I anticipate the coming of this new year ~ 2016.

“Everything comes to us that belongs to us, if we create the capacity to receive it.”

~ Rabindranath Tagore ~

This path of mine has brought me to and through so much, and here I am entering into another year to apply all that I’ve learned ~ through all that has given my life meaning, richness and purpose.  I want to create within myself the capacity to receive all that belongs to me with open arms and heart, and to be ready to take that leap when the timing is right.

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Over the Christmas holiday, one of my sons shared with me a memory of when he was a teenager.  He told me that when he saw the movie ~ E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial, ‘the Mom from E.T.’ reminded him of me.

I remembered the movie and how the message captivated all of us during the early Eighties.

“Turn on your heartlight.  Let it shine wherever you go.”

Click here to listen ♥ :  Heartlight ~ Neil Diamond ~ E.T.

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“The Mom from E.T.” was a single mom raising her children during that time just as I was.  So I googled to refresh my memory and learn more about her.  It was a time for me when building a sense of safety and security for my family was very important to me and E.T. touched my heart.

What I found in my google search was a video of an interview with Dee Wallace (The Mom from E.T.) reflecting back thirty years and how the movie continued to touch the hearts of people down through the years.  What I loved is how she sees the movie as a call to Love instead of Fear and Hate.  Speaking of how 9/11 has affected all of us, she expressed her own desire to see us recapture that belief that there’s more goodness in the world than there is evil:

“If we continue to live in the fear and the protecting that it made us build up, we stop creating who we are… we shut all our light down… and then love isn’t prevalent …. and then we literally begin creating the world we don’t want.  If you want a world of love, you’ve got to be love.”

I see this as true at both a national level and at a personal level.  It was the conclusion I came to as a single mom facing the challenges ahead of me and recovering from abandonment that made things look very hopeless.  If I continued to live in the fear and the protecting that it made me build up, I would have stopped creating who I was… shutting down my light… and love wouldn’t have prevailed.  Instead of creating a sense of love and support within my family, it would have begun to create a world I didn’t want.  I wanted my children to come through with a sense of acceptance and belonging which they deserved, and not a sense of being outcasts because they weren’t in a ‘whole’ family.

So. as I stand upon this mountaintop overlooking the possibilities of the new year ahead of me, I recall the message of E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial.   I hope to be able to have the courage to speak and act in a way that truly represents what I’ve come to believe.    

“Turn on your heartlight ~ Open your heart ~ Keep the light on ~ You are the light.” 

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~ This is the great interview I mentioned above and I hope you’ll get as much out of it as I did.  I’d love to hear your thoughts on it. ~

Click here to view the video ♥ :  Dee Wallace (the Mom from E.T.) Exclusive Interview for the 30th Anniversary Blu-ray

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21 thoughts on “Me in the Middle of Looking Back (#FlashBack)

  1. This is a lovely post. We recently shared E.T. with our kids (10 and almost 12) and they were just as captivated as I was when I saw it for the first time. The message is truly universal, and your son’s comment comparing you to the mom on E.T. was truly a compliment.

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    • Thanks, Laura! Thinking back, I can remember the uplift I received from the movie during that time. It meant a lot to have my son say this now, looking back. 🙂

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  2. It’s the best when a compliment like that comes from your kid. My first daughter said, “daddy, you look like Elvis.” My second daughter said, “daddy, you look like Deepak Chopra.” My third daughter said, “daddy, you look like Jimmy Kimmel.” I’ve gone from musical to spiritual to comedic.

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  3. Hurting people hurt other people, especially if they can’t see another way through their own pain. It’s like having a bad day at work and then coming home and kicking the dog instead of playing with it to get your mood up. Definitely the news would make us think that there is more bad in the world than good. Your self-awareness as a new single mom helped you create a positive and safe place for your children going forward from a bad situation and is a great legacy to them in showing them how to deal better with adversity. How wonderful!

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    • Very encouraging words, Susan! So much of what’s going on in our own lives and in the world isn’t really about us. There is a lot of pain and hurt. All that we can do is be centered in love and move forward the best we can with faith and hope. 🙂

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    • We sure do, Debbie! It’s amazing and disheartening to see how many jump on the bandwagon of the headlines and contribute to the fear and hate. It pays to step back and do a bit of research. Thanks for commenting! 🙂

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  4. Parents have a special responsibility to keep their children safe and guide them into adulthood. Love and respect for others is a good lesson to teach.

    From the world view I think the concepts of “fear and hate” are often labels that are misused to smear those who are being realistic and logical. Idealism is a nice way to see the world, but it is not always practical. It’s always best to be informed.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

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    • Beautiful thoughts, Arlee! Yes, ‘Love’, ‘Fear’ and ‘Hate” are labels in the world view and we have a responsibility to be informed and not react in an idealistic way. It saddens me to see those who deny genuine fears/threats and react naively, just as much as it saddens me to see those who react in fear and hatred against a whole group without having the facts. 🙂

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  5. I think there is more good in the world than evil, only not enough people are seeking it out. It’s so easy for the media to focus on the negative to get ratings and reactions; the good often gets overlooked. Unfortunately, good is often criticized; people wonder “what’s the catch?” or “what are the strings?” I think that’s why people get swept up in cat and dog videos. They are craving something positive that won’t be judged, simply accepted. I love this movie, and cat and dog videos. 🙂

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    • Nicely said, Toi Thomas! If you focus on the darkness you’re going to find that in the world. The more you look for goodness and gratitude, the more it will appear in your life. Thanks for stopping by! 🙂

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  6. I always like any quote that has to do with light. I think in our world, darkness gets so much attention that it’s easy to lose sight of the light. Lovely post, interesting idea to post something from your blogging past.

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