Me in the Middle of Lessons Learned ~Letter V

My Life Is My Masterpiece ~ Lessons Learned

My theme ~ Lessons Learned.  I’ll be posting a word that begins with each letter of the alphabet that fits my theme.   This blog/website has become one way to share about myself to my children, my grandchildren and my extended family who are scattered all over the country and the world.  Hopefully, anyone who reads this will be in some way blessed by my throwing my words out onto the World Wide Web and into the Universe.  

 My About Page gives me the focus so that, as I age, I don’t forget what I worked so hard to learn.  It’s going to be fun and challenging!   I hope you’ll stick with me as I strive to meet my goal!!

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“What makes you vulnerable, makes you beautiful.” – Brené Brown

 

THIS ^^^^^^ IS THE MOST IMPORTANT VIDEO IN MY LESSONS LEARNED

I’m going to share, once again, my favorite quotes by Brene in this video.  Where did we pick up the message that we’re not worthy ~ that we’re not enough.  We each have to look at our own lives and find the answers to that.  I like how she extends this into our politics and our religions.

Whole-hearted people have a sense of courage… the courage to be imperfect…. the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others.  They had connection as a result of their authenticity.

Vulnerability is kind of the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears it’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging and of love.

We numb vulnerability…. You cannot selectively numb emotion.  You can’t say here’s the bad stuff… here’s the vulnerability, here’s grief, here’s shame, here’s fear, here’s disappointment.  I don’t want to feel these.  (You can’t numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affect or emotion. When we numb those, we numb joy, gratitude, we numb happiness.)

We make everything that is uncertain, certain.  Religion has gone from a belief in faith and mystery to certainty.  ‘I’m right, you’re wrong! Shut Up!’

This is what politics looks like today.  There’s no discourse.  There’s no conversation.  There’s just blame.

You’re imperfect . . . and you are wired for struggle but you are worthy of love and belonging.

My way of dealing with pain and vulnerability was to stuff it down and leave it unexpressed until I had to take the time to bring it all into the open and talk about it and deal with the pain.  We need to tell our stories and to share them with others who will be inspired to do the same.

 “When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal someone else.”  ~ Iyana Vanzant

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The Heart and The Bottle ~ Oliver Jeffers

(Click on the link above)

A tender illustrated fable of what happens when we deny our difficult emotions.  A gentle reminder of what we stand to lose when we lock away loss.

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Vulnerability #3

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* Note:  My letter sketches were made from ideas I found on Google Images. *

****  This Alphabet Series is a recycle of the posts I created while participating in the A to Z Challenge in 2016 ***

11 thoughts on “Me in the Middle of Lessons Learned ~Letter V

  1. I used to try and block out my pain. I have been able to advance to a much better place allowing myself to fully feel it and then work through it. having said that, there are aspects I do not open up and I do feel best left alone.

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  2. I adore Brene Brown. In fact, I read her Gifts of Imperfection once a year. I grew up in a stoic family. We didn’t show emotion, we stifled it with a stiff upper lip. But over the past few years, I’ve found journaling help me be vulnerable with myself, which is a baby step forward.

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  3. Hey Mary Lou, An interesting word for V… and not one I had thought much about. Also, probably the 5th time Brene Brown has come into my awareness this week…must mean I need to look into her teachings!! (visiting from MLSTL)

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  4. I sometimes think I’m the only person in my world who is honest and open with the tough stuff in life. So many women gloss over things and store it up and turn into depressed, anxious wrecks. How many are struggling and we never know because they won’t admit to it? Being vulnerable takes courage and it’s time we saw more of it.
    Thanks for linking up with us at #MLSTL and I’ve shared this on my SM 🙂

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  5. Hi Mary Lou, I’m here via the #MSTLP linky. I adore Brene Brown. She is so wise. I work in the field of trauma and we used one of her videos on boundaries in our new staff orientation. Some of the quotes you’ve pulled out really resonate with what I am going through right now – getting back in touch with some emotions I had numbed in order to get through a very difficult passage. It has been challenging, but it has also opened the door to experiencing more joy. Thanks for sharing this inspiring video.

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    • Those of us who have been through trauma are the best helpers of those experiencing it now Kristin! That’s what’s so special about Brene. She’s been there and has been humbled by it. Glad you stopped by! 🙂

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  6. I totally agree, Mary Lou that we need to show our vulnerable side. If we bottle everything up and not ask for help then that is when we can become ill or find life too overwhelming. Showing that we are vulnerable to me is also being courageous. Thanks for sharing at #MLSTL and it is a pleasure to have you join us. Have a great week! xx

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