Me In The Middle of Being a Single Mom

 

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© Mary Lou Q

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“Everything comes to us that belongs to us, if we create the capacity to receive it.”

~ Rabindranath Tagore ~

This path of mine has brought me to and through so much that has given my life meaning, richness and purpose.  I want to apply all that I’ve learned ~ I want to create within myself the capacity to receive all that belongs to me with open arms and open heart.

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One of my sons shared with me a memory of when he was a teenager.  He told me that when he saw the movie ~ E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial, ‘the Mom from E.T.’ reminded him of me.

I remembered the movie and how the message captivated all of us during the early Eighties.

“Turn on your heartlight.  Let it shine wherever you go.”

Click here to listen ♥ :  Heartlight ~ Neil Diamond ~ E.T.

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“The Mom from E.T.” was a single mom raising her children during that time just as I was.  So I googled to refresh my memory and learn more about her.  It was a time for me when building a sense of safety and security for my family was very important to me and E.T. touched my heart.

What I found in my google search was a video of an interview with Dee Wallace (The Mom from E.T.) reflecting back thirty years and how the movie continued to touch the hearts of people down through the years.  What I loved is how she sees the movie as a call to Love instead of Fear and Hate.  Speaking of how 9/11 has affected all of us, she expressed her own desire to see us recapture that belief that there’s more goodness in the world than there is evil:

“If we continue to live in the fear and the protecting that it made us build up, we stop creating who we are… we shut all our light down… and then love isn’t prevalent …. and then we literally begin creating the world we don’t want.  If you want a world of love, you’ve got to be love.”

I see this as true at both a national level and at a personal level.  It was the conclusion I came to as a single mom facing the challenges ahead of me and recovering from abandonment that made things look very hopeless.  If I continued to live in the fear and the protecting that it made me build up, I would have stopped creating who I was… shutting down my light… and love wouldn’t have prevailed.  Instead of creating a sense of love and support within my family, it would have begun to create a world I didn’t want.  I wanted my children to come through with a sense of acceptance and belonging which they deserved, and not a sense of being outcasts because they weren’t in a ‘whole’ family.

So. as I stand upon this mountaintop overlooking the possibilities ahead of me at this time in my life, I recall the message of E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial.   I hope to be able to have the courage to speak and act in a way that truly represents what I’ve come to believe.    

“Turn on your heartlight ~ Open your heart ~ Keep the light on ~ You are the light.” 

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6 thoughts on “Me In The Middle of Being a Single Mom

  1. Mary Lou – thank you for sharing your beautiful story. It sounds like you were a wonderful mother to your children. Being a child (1 of 8) who was abandoned by our father, I know how difficult it all was for my mother. She stood so strong and did what she needed to do to keep us all safe and to help us have a better life. While she wasn’t warm and fuzzy, her heart light shown in the strength and dedication she had to raising us. #MLSTL

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    • Life challenges us in unexpected ways! I know it’s not easy and your mother did it for 8 children. We can only try out best at times like that. It’s good to be connected through #MLSTL Janet. 🙂

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  2. That was beautiful Mary Lou – and what a lovely tribute from your son to see you reflected in the Mum’s character. I think there’s a lot more positivity in this world than we give it credit for. We get drowned in the doom and gloom and forget to shine our lights. Thanks for the lovely reminder.
    MLSTL and I’ve shared on my SM 🙂

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    • It’s so easy to get caught up in what’s going on right now Leanne! I’m always reminded myself of what I can control and what I can’t fix. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

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