Me In The Middle of Being a Single Mom

 

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© Mary Lou Q

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“Everything comes to us that belongs to us, if we create the capacity to receive it.”

~ Rabindranath Tagore ~

This path of mine has brought me to and through so much that has given my life meaning, richness and purpose.  I want to apply all that I’ve learned ~ I want to create within myself the capacity to receive all that belongs to me with open arms and open heart.

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One of my sons shared with me a memory of when he was a teenager.  He told me that when he saw the movie ~ E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial, ‘the Mom from E.T.’ reminded him of me.

I remembered the movie and how the message captivated all of us during the early Eighties.

“Turn on your heartlight.  Let it shine wherever you go.”

Click here to listen ♥ :  Heartlight ~ Neil Diamond ~ E.T.

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“The Mom from E.T.” was a single mom raising her children during that time just as I was.  So I googled to refresh my memory and learn more about her.  It was a time for me when building a sense of safety and security for my family was very important to me and E.T. touched my heart.

What I found in my google search was a video of an interview with Dee Wallace (The Mom from E.T.) reflecting back thirty years and how the movie continued to touch the hearts of people down through the years.  What I loved is how she sees the movie as a call to Love instead of Fear and Hate.  Speaking of how 9/11 has affected all of us, she expressed her own desire to see us recapture that belief that there’s more goodness in the world than there is evil:

“If we continue to live in the fear and the protecting that it made us build up, we stop creating who we are… we shut all our light down… and then love isn’t prevalent …. and then we literally begin creating the world we don’t want.  If you want a world of love, you’ve got to be love.”

I see this as true at both a national level and at a personal level.  It was the conclusion I came to as a single mom facing the challenges ahead of me and recovering from abandonment that made things look very hopeless.  If I continued to live in the fear and the protecting that it made me build up, I would have stopped creating who I was… shutting down my light… and love wouldn’t have prevailed.  Instead of creating a sense of love and support within my family, it would have begun to create a world I didn’t want.  I wanted my children to come through with a sense of acceptance and belonging which they deserved, and not a sense of being outcasts because they weren’t in a ‘whole’ family.

So. as I stand upon this mountaintop overlooking the possibilities ahead of me at this time in my life, I recall the message of E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial.   I hope to be able to have the courage to speak and act in a way that truly represents what I’ve come to believe.    

“Turn on your heartlight ~ Open your heart ~ Keep the light on ~ You are the light.” 

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Me In The Middle of Life

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I will not die an unlived life.
I will not live in fear
of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid,
more accessible,
to loosen my heart
until it becomes a wing,
a torch, a promise.
I choose to risk my significance;
to live so that which came to me as seed
goes to the next as blossom
and that which came to me as blossom,
goes on as fruit.


(Dawna Markova, b. 1942)

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Nelson County Sketch #5

(c) mlq

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One-Word Inspiration and A Story In A Single Image

Choice

CHOICE

What does it mean to have a choice?

Does a child have a choice in what family they are born into?

And do we have a choice in how we are taught?

Does a child have a choice in the body they are given?

in the country they’re born into?

Or the religion (or no religion) they are raised in?

A child comes into the world trusting.

Can that child be the person they were created to be?

Or will that child be limited in the choices available to them?

It’s a wonderful, expansive world  with so many choices both good and bad.

Are we letting those we love have the freedom to learn and grow?

Or are we binding them with narrow walls that attempt to keep them

within our own small world?

Choices ~ how to teach a child to think and follow their own path…

to believe in themselves.

How to help them make the best choices for themselves.

How to let go of them and let them take that leap!

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Choice ~ Take that Leap

This post is a combination of two assignments for Writing 101.  We had a choice out of six words to pick one that spoke to us and that we wanted to write about.  The other assignment was to pick a single image that inspired us.  So I picked “Choice” as my one word and two images that I felt represented what I wrote.  Be well and be happy!

Me in the Middle of the World of Walking ~ Part 3

This is my third post on a course I’m taking.  Walking has been my exercise of choice whether at the fitness center, traveling, or walking around the neighborhood where I live.

When OLLI (Osher Lifelong Learning Institute) with the University of Virginia offered the Fall Course ~ The World of Walking ~, I was totally on-board.  What could this instructor, Dan Kulund, possibly introduce us to about ‘Walking’ that would fill up a six-week, hour and half weekly class on The World of Walking.  My first post on The World of Walking covered some of the styles of walking and tips on good walking form.  My Second Post (here) covers some of the interesting history of City Walking and how things have changed.  This third post covers country walking and tips on using a walking stick.  

Dr. Kulund, a retired orthopedist, is an expert at walking and its health benefits.  The class is educational in both the slide presentations of the history of walking plus the experience of walking in a group and learning exercises and techniques along the way.

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Walking Stick

Walking Sticks

I bought my walking stick at the museum gift shop at Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello.  Now that I’ve taken this course and learned a few exercises you can do as your walking along the trail, I’ll be bring my walking stick along with me when I walk the Saunders-Monticello Trail. 

  • PUSH:  Up over your head ~ Out in front
  • PULL:  Curls; Half-jacks from waist up;
  • MIXED:  Squats using stick for support; Lunges (step back/drop knee to ground) 

In my area we also have a neurologist designed of special walking sticks called Neuro Staff.   (You can go to his website by clicking on the link)  You might be able to  find a similar product in your area.

The Staff of Asclepius is a medical symbol and refers to the Greek God of Healing:

 

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“The object of walking is to relax the mind. You should therefore not permit yourself even to think while you walk. But divert your attention by the objects surrounding you. Walking is the best possible exercise.”

~ Thomas Jefferson ~

Country Walking

Country Walking

Me in the Middle of the World of Walking Part 2

 

Pedestrian Walking #2

Image from Pixabay

This is my second post on a course I’m taking.  Walking has been my exercise of choice whether at the fitness center, traveling, or walking around the neighborhood where I live.

When OLLI (Osher Lifelong Learning Institute) with the University of Virginia offered the Fall Course ~ The World of Walking ~, I was totally on-board.  What could this instructor, Dan Kulund, possibly introduce us to about ‘Walking’ that would fill up a six-week, hour and half weekly class on The World of Walking.  My first post on The World of Walking covered some of the styles of walking and tips on good walking form.  This second post covers some of the interesting history of City Walking and how things have changed.  Dr. Kulund, a retired orthopedist, is an expert at walking and its health benefits.  The class is educational in both the slide presentations of the history of walking plus the experience of walking in a group and learning exercises and techniques along the way.

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I’ve always wondered why they called it JAYWALKING, haven’t you?

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There was a time when folks in the city would walk all over and being a pedestrian was the most common form of getting around besides the horse and buggy.  Trolley cars came on the scene and traveled 10 miles per hour so it was easy for pedestrians to safely coexist on city streets with street cars traveling along on their tracks.  There were no curbs, no sidewalks ……… just trolley cars and walkers. 

Along came the automobile in the 1930’s and with it the ever increasing speed of transit.  Over the years it’s become a safety issue for pedestrians to find safe places to walk.  As speed limits changed by law it was found that deaths of pedestrians did also ~ @ 20 MPH 1 out of 10 deaths, @30 MPH 5 out of 10 deaths and @ 30 MPH 9 out of 10 deaths.  Sidewalks and curbs were included as safety measures to protect walkers.

Trolley Car Conspiracy

 

Now there’s a movement to return to lower speed limits and pedestrian-only roadways.

Travel By Foot: Walkable Cities Around The World