Me in the Middle of Always Letting Go

Letting Go Post Aug 16

 

Letting Go

To ‘let go’ does not mean to stop caring.  It means I can’t do it for someone else.

To ‘let go’ is not to cut myself off.  It’s the realization I can’t control another.

To ‘let go’ is not to enable but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To ‘let go’ is to admit powerlessness which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To ‘let go’ is not to try to change or blame another.  It’s to make the most of myself.

To ‘let go’ is not to care for but to care about.

To ‘let go’ is not to fix but to be supportive.

To ‘let go’ is not to judge but to allow another to be a human being.

To ‘let go’ is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To ‘let go’ is not to be protective.  It’s to permit another to face reality.

To ‘let go’ is not to deny but to accept.

To ‘let go’ is not to nag, scold or argue but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To ‘ let go’ is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

To ‘ let go’ is not to regret the past but to grow and live for the future.

To ‘ let go’ is to fear less and love more.

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I want to fix things!  I want to heal the world and make things all better.  I recognized this about myself going back to when I was a young wife and mother.  Yes, I’m a rescuer and a co-dependent.  My heart fills with love and breaks when I see suffering in the world.  Over and over I’ve had to remind myself to step back and be in the middle of things yet apart from it.  Things that I can’t fix…that I have no control over need to be let go. 

 * Like what’s going on in my country right now.  *

* Like the punch in the gut when we learned about predator priests in the Catholic Church. *

  These things draw me in and break my heart.  I want to fix it.  Sometimes letting go means ‘holding space’ for someone or something when we’re on the threshold of change and we’re not sure where it’s taking us.  Sometimes stepping back and allowing that space means remaining in relationship in a supportive way.  Sometimes stepping back means leaving that relationship and setting healthy boundaries so you can move forward and recover. 

Forgiveness is possible.  Restoring relationship not always possible.  Restoring trust is up to the one who betrayed that trust.  We can’t fix things on our own.

To ‘ let go’ is to fear less and love more.

 

Letting Go Let It Be