Pandemic 2020-21 ~ April

~Good Friday through Easter Sunday~

Early Easter Sunday morning my loving friend, Pat, passed away. 💕 And I will miss him so much! He is the kindest, sweetest, loving man I’ve known. 💔 I’m so thankful for the beauty and goodness he brought into my life.

There are so many beautiful memories.

This last year of COVID-19 isolation was difficult for those of us above the age of 75. While he was in a long-term care facility and I was in my own apartment, we made a commitment to talk with each other on the phone every day and give each other the support and encouragement we needed to make it through. Our daily conversations helped both of us through the uncertainty of this pandemic and we grew closer. I was able to visit him over the course of the year and we were relieved to have finally gotten vaccinated. Spring was coming! Soon we’d be able to get outdoors in the sun and make more plans to be together.

The year before the pandemic hit was filled with good memories. I’d known him for quite awhile, from a distance, and finally we were brought together while in physical therapy. I was drawn to his sweet and kind ways. Our relationship grew and I believe we found each other at the right moment in time.

COVID-19 didn’t win in this case. Our worst nightmare was that one of us would wind up on a ventilator isolated from family. That didn’t happen. A stroke and pneumonia worsened in the hospital and he died peacefully with loved ones by his side. I was able to be with him and tell him how much he meant to me.

I was given this gift of having him love me and being able to love him. Because of that my heart has broken wide open with love. It hurts to have him gone and I’ll miss him yet it’s a different kind of broken heartedness. Knowing him has raised me up.

It’s only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth — and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up —that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had. ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross~

(Now, more than ever, I’m realizing this. Now, today, I woke up to another beautiful day, realizing that, once again, you’re not in it.}

Me in the Middle Thinking of Sydney

“Live, Love, Laugh”

While stopping by a local farmers market I happened to notice a shaded area up the road in a quiet grove with a single bench.  Something prompted me to take a minute and sit down to overlook the nice view of the Virginia skyline.  There was a mild breeze in the air that was a pleasant relief from the hot, humid weather we’d been having.  I found myself meditating and settling into the moment of peaceful escape.

When I got up to leave I noticed  a sign in the shape of a heart stuck in garden behind the bench.   ~”Sit and Share a Smile in Loving Memory of Sydney Aichs”~

I had heard the name before and remembered that the high school student had been tragically killed when a tractor trailer ran a red light and slammed into her car as she was pulling out onto the main roadway on her way to school.

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I found it such a peaceful spot to just sit and look out over the soccer field where Sydney played soccer when in middle school.  I thought of what a loving family and community she had to create this memorial place for her.  What a wonderful way to keep her memory alive!  Here I was, a person who had never met her, thinking about her and how her life was cut short and all her dreams would never be realized.

Now, whenever I’m in that area, I stop by to just be with her spirit and experience the calm and peace that comes from being there.

Sydney lived by the motto “Live, Love, Laugh’.  

Something each one of us can do in her memory.