Me in the Middle ~ Kindness Role Model

 

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.”

(Albert Schweitzer, 1875 – 1965)

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So many down through the years have been kindness role models for me.  It’s hard to single out just one person.  It’s difficult to be the one and only kindness role model for others because, inevitably, we won’t always measure up to that role because we are human.  Sometimes we need to be unkind in order to be kind and sometimes others need to be unkind to us in order to be kind.  (Do I really mean that? 😉 )  

My earliest and forever kindness role model would be my mother.  I am blessed to have had her example.  My father was also a man of kindness and gentleness.  I don’t recall either of them treating anyone in a overtly nasty or unkind way.  They had strong principles and beliefs, and definitely drew the line on others who might think and believe differently yet I never heard them express their disapproval in hurtful and ugly ways.  It was mostly done in thoughtful ways.

One memory of kindness that stands out was when I messed up at my piano recital and couldn’t remember the rest of the song.  I must have been about nine or ten.  When we returned home my father sat down with me and encouraged me to play the song all the way through so I’d know that I could do it.  I felt supported by his kindness.

Down through the years there were many who displayed kindness along the way. There was one time when I was walking home from Brownies when it was beginning to get dark outside.  A dog ran up to me and blocked my way, growling and barking.  I was paralyzed by fear.  A teenage boy rode up to me on his bicycle and chased the dog away.  I didn’t know who he was, and just rushed on home, relieved he was there to help.  A kind act I still remember!

My family ~ my siblings ~ my children ~ my grandchildren …….. so many acts of kindness I couldn’t even begin to list them.  Many, many friends and acquaintances down through the years who offered a kind and supportive hand during good times and bad, offering words of inspiration just at the right time to give me hope.

I’m going to risk treading into an area that’s a hot-button issue right now only because I strive to look for the goodness and kindness during times when these issues rise up.

For the last ten years I’ve had neighbors across the way who have offered me kindness and support.  They are a Muslim family who have reached out to me and I was privileged to get to know.  I was invited to their home when each child was welcomed into the world.  We would share customary foods with each other during our traditional holidays.  When I had surgery the children would bring over offerings of food to cheer me up.  I was truly blessed with knowing them and learning from them.  Recently they’ve returned to Indonesia to live near relatives.  They have dual-citizenship.  They never said an unkind word about what was happening politically here in our country yet the father shared with me their fear of what was developing.  I think of them often now and hope they are happy in their new home.

 

 

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“We could actually soothe our fearful, angry culture if each of us were more mindful of being kind.  Kindness is not easy.  It takes thought and a commitment to watching how we treat each other.”

Always Model Kindness, Especially to Children

 

Kindness ~ Pass It On

 

Me in the Middle of Lessons Learned ~ By the Alphabet

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My Life Is My Masterpiece ~ Lessons Learned

My theme ~ Lessons Learned.  I’ll be posting a word that begins with each letter of the alphabet that fits my theme.   This blog/website has become one way to share about myself to my children, my grandchildren and my extended family who are scattered all over the country and the world.  Hopefully, anyone who reads this will be in some way blessed by my throwing my words out onto the World Wide Web and into the Universe.  

 My About Page gives me the focus so that, as I age, I don’t forget what I worked so hard to learn.  It’s going to be fun and challenging!   I hope you’ll stick with me as I strive to meet my goal!!

* Note:  My letter sketches were made from ideas I found on Google Images. *

***  This Alphabet Series is a recycle of the posts I created while participating in the A to Z Challenge in 2016 ***

Me in the Middle of Kindness Challenge Finale

 

Kindness is a Muscle

Over the past seven weeks of the Kindness Challenge 2017, my thoughts have turned to the power of kindness as the foundation for bringing change to our lives, our country and our world.  I’ve found that it’s true that Kindness is Contagious and that kindness grows stronger the more we focus on the goodness of people.  Kindness is a Muscle!

My Grand Finale Reflection on Kindness Challenge 2017 brought to mind each of the weekly prompts for the seven weeks.  The first three weeks were as important as the last four prompts.  Maybe even more important in that it helped us to realize that kindness towards ourselves through self-love, self-compassion and self-acceptance help us to reach out to others with love, compassion and acceptance.

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These are a few of the Kindness bloggers I met over the last seven weeks.  I chose the posts randomly based on the first one I came across that inspired me about each week’s prompt.  I decided to stick with Word Press Bloggers to narrow it down more.  Reading all of the participants reflections on kindness has inspired me even more to look for the many ways kindness moves through our lives:

Dramastically Imperfect ~ Self-Love Week One

Julia ~ Self-Compassion Week Two

This Mommy is Real ~ Self-Acceptance Week Three

Positively Appealing ~ Kindness Role Models Week Four

Lulu ~ Choosing Kindness Week Five

Me Revealed ~ Kindness Without Expectation Week Six

Wanda ~ Grateful for Kindness Week Seven

Kindness Challenge Participant

Click here for all of my Kindness Challenge Reflections

 

Me in the Middle of Week 4 Reflection ~ Kindness Role Model

 

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.”

(Albert Schweitzer, 1875 – 1965)

Row_of_candles

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 Week Four ~ Kindness Role Model

The fourth prompt for the Kindness Challenge 2017 is Kindness Role Model.

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So many down through the years have been kindness role models for me.  It’s hard to single out just one person.  It’s difficult to be the one and only kindness role model for others because, inevitably, we won’t always measure up to that role because we are human.  Sometimes we need to be unkind in order to be kind and sometimes others need to be unkind to us in order to be kind.  (Do I really mean that? 😉 )  

My earliest and forever kindness role model would be my mother.  I am blessed to have had her example.  My father was also a man of kindness and gentleness.  I don’t recall either of them treating anyone in a overtly nasty or unkind way.  They had strong principles and beliefs, and definitely drew the line on others who might think and believe differently yet I never heard them express their disapproval in hurtful and ugly ways.  It was mostly done in thoughtful ways.

One memory of kindness that stands out was when I messed up at my piano recital and couldn’t remember the rest of the song.  I must have been about nine or ten.  When we returned home my father sat down with me and encouraged me to play the song all the way through so I’d know that I could do it.  I felt supported by his kindness.

Down through the years there were many who displayed kindness along the way. There was one time when I was walking home from Brownies when it was beginning to get dark outside.  A dog ran up to me and blocked my way, growling and barking.  I was paralyzed by fear.  A teenage boy rode up to me on his bicycle and chased the dog away.  I didn’t know who he was, and just rushed on home, relieved he was there to help.  A kind act I still remember!

My family ~ my siblings ~ my children ~ my grandchildren …….. so many acts of kindness I couldn’t even begin to list them.  Many, many friends and acquaintances down through the years who offered a kind and supportive hand during good times and bad, offering words of inspiration just at the right time to give me hope.

I’m going to risk treading into an area that’s a hot-button issue right now only because I strive to look for the goodness and kindness during times when these issues rise up.

For the last ten years I’ve had neighbors across the way who have offered me kindness and support.  They are a Muslim family who have reached out to me and I was privileged to get to know.  I was invited to their home when each child was welcomed into the world.  We would share customary foods with each other during our traditional holidays.  When I had surgery the children would bring over offerings of food to cheer me up.  I was truly blessed with knowing them and learning from them.  Recently they’ve returned to Indonesia to live near relatives.  They have dual-citizenship.  They never said an unkind word about what was happening politically here in our country yet the father shared with me their fear of what was developing.  I think of them often now and hope they are happy in their new home.

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Over the recent months things have developed in unsettling ways.  None of us know where it’s all leading to.  Many of us were deeply touched by three kind and courageous souls who intervened on the behalf of two young girls who were being harassed and bullied.  The account was heart-breaking.  The two who died because of this encounter were bright lights at a time when we most need the light.  One man survived the attack and will be a witness to the power of kindness in his living.  I’m including a link to a well-written account of what happened.  It’s difficult to read:

Portland MAX hero’s last words: ‘Tell everyone on this train I love them’

“I just kept telling him, ‘You’re not alone. We’re here,” Macy said. “What you did was total kindness. You’re such a beautiful man. I’m sorry the world is so cruel.”

“When I said ‘pray with me,’ he just closed his eyes and tried to keep breathing,” she recalled.

Medics put Namkai-Meche on a stretcher. Macy stayed by his side. Before he was carried away, he had a last message, she said: “Tell everyone on this train I love them. ”

“Angels walks among us …..

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“We could actually soothe our fearful, angry culture if each of us were more mindful of being kind.  Kindness is not easy.  It takes thought and a commitment to watching how we treat each other.”

Always Model Kindness, Especially to Children

Me in the Middle of FlashBack A to Z Reflections 2016

      
It’s FlashBack Friday ~ A time of the month where you can republish an old post of yours that maybe didn’t get enough attention, or that you’re really proud of, or you think is still relevant etc.  This Blog-Go-Round is hosted by Jemima Pett and originally introduced by Michael D’Agostino from A LIFE EXAMINED.  That’s where you’ll find the rest of the participants or to join up yourself.

The post I’ve chosen for this month first appeared on ME IN THE MIDDLE on May 4th, 2016.  Even though I was unable to participate in this years A to Z Challenge I was still able to visit some blogs and enjoy their posts.   I updated the Dozen Brave Bloggers with the links to feature those who participated this year (2017).  They did such a great job meeting the challenge!  I hope  you’ll visit their blogs and let them know where you heard about their great A to Z posts.    

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Me In The Middle of #atozchallenge Reflections

A-to-Z Reflection [2016]

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Reflectons

When I saw Damyanti Biswas‘ post introducing me to the A to Z Challenge 2016, I thought ~ ‘Oh, another one of those challenges.  Maybe I’ll try this one!’  One month’s commitment seemed like a doable time period to make this effort a challenging one.  As time went on I began to realize the amount of organization and the scope behind this endeavor!  My enthusiasm grew!  This could be a very rewarding event for me!  I was #100 on the Sign-Up List and I watched the number of sign-ups grow to an impressive number of 1,946 bloggers!

When the call came for us to Reveal A Theme, I had already been pre-scheduling my alphabet letters around the thought of sharing with my children and grandchildren some of the Lessons Learned through my life.  This was becoming for me a moment in time where I would no longer just think about it.  I was being inspired and motivated to get my thoughts on life down in writing.  The Challenge provided a creative and inspiring vehicle.

Much thanks to Arlee Bird and his Ambassadors for providing this moment in time to what turned out to be the most rewarding (and intense) experience in my blogging so far.  I look forward to 2017!!

https://meinthemiddlewrites.com/category/a-to-z-challenge/

My A to Z Challenge ~ Lessons Learned (Click Here)

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~ My A to Z Blogging Community ~

During the month of April, every morning was like Christmas morning!  I would wake up with a sense of anticipation and log onto my laptop to see who stopped by and commented on that day’s post.  I created my website/blog in September of 2015 and had met a lot of great bloggers.  I was pleased with the initial reception of my blog ~ Me in the Middle ~ and was gaining confidence and experience as I went along.  A to Z was something new!!  The traffic to my blog shot up and I had 1,611 views, 548 visitors, 678 likes and 652 comments throughout the April A2Z Challenge.  I used Facebook and Twitter to launch each day’s posts.  Visitors came to my blog from Facebook, Twitter and WordPress Reader.  Honestly, I’m now in A to Z Withdrawal and miss the stimulation of non-stop connecting and blogging with other bloggers.  It’s nice though that my life has returned to a calmer, steady pace and, to be honest, I wouldn’t be able to maintain the effort for more than one month out of the year.  So Bring It On 2017!

2016-05-03

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~ A Dozen Brave Bloggers ~

(Updated for AtoZ 2017)

(There are so many more bloggers who came to visit Me in the Middle and I hope to return to everyone’s blogs and read all of their AtoZ posts.  I decided to share a dozen of these bloggers because I got to know them through visiting their blogs and chatting in comments.  Click on their links and see the amazing blogs they’ve created!  ♥ )

If I Only Had A Time Machine

Happiness and Food

Simply Marquessa

Madness of a Modern Writer

Sharon E. Cathcart

Coach Daddy

All in a Dad’s Work

Cresting the Hill

A Momma’s View

Poetry Penned in Moon Dust

Planet Pailley

Dandelion Fuzz